It’s a Process

Another pomegranate martini lingered in front of me; its sweet red nectar glistening in the glow of lowered lights and laughter. Two of my girlfriends flanked the table and I was absorbed by their presence. I'm realizing that everyone suffers from some level of loneliness or discontentment. The stay-at-home mom, the working mom, the mom … Continue reading It’s a Process

Five Minute Friday: Miss

I miss my mini-van. It made life so easy with kids, pets and equipment. Everyone had a seat near a window and rarely did anyone complain that "she's sitting too close to me".  I had space to breathe in that car, space to be present but not super imposing even when all seven seats were … Continue reading Five Minute Friday: Miss

A Resolution I Can Keep

A couple of years ago I was really struggling with a mix of changing hormones and over all stinkin' thinking. I allowed turning 40 to be a burden rather than a time to celebrate. Whenever frustration or disappointment crept in my soul, I foolishly gave it a place to hibernate. The heaviness sat there day … Continue reading A Resolution I Can Keep

There are no bad people, not really

"Do you think my mom is a bad person?" Peanut asked, sitting at the kitchen counter, feet dangling over discarded flip-flops while eating a late breakfast. "I don't really know your mom," I answered cautiously, "why?" "cuz my last foster parent said my mom was a bad person and that's why I can't live with … Continue reading There are no bad people, not really

Expect Nothing

I've spent a lot of wasted time expecting people to be different. Expecting them to be thankful or honest. Expecting them to love unconditionally or be tolerant without question. Expecting them to be compassionate, self-less or encouraging. Expecting them to apologize. But mostly, I think I've just spent a lot of wasted time being disappointed, … Continue reading Expect Nothing