Plinky Prompt: List 5 of Your Top Dating Deal Breakers
It’s been a long time since I dated, over ten years to be exact. But I guess in the big scheme of things, ten years really isn’t that long actually. Most people my age have been married for more than ten years. If I combine all my years of marriage then I would have almost 15 years of marital experience.
(Sounds like something you would put on a resume.)
My girlfriends and I joke that if we suddenly found ourselves single again at this stage of our life that we would never get married again. It’s not because our marriages are bad – to be clear, they are awesome marriages – but it took us a long time (and a lot of frogs) to get here. I don’t think I would want to invest that much energy again. It would just be too much work. Do I really want to train someone else to put the seat down so I don’t fall into the toilet in the middle of the night? Or how about figuring out what side of the bed to sleep on, or who has sovereignty over the remote control in our bedroom? (That would be me, by the way.) Or even whose schedule takes precedence?
Of course, when I was in college and dating, I had no idea what I was looking for in a man. There has never been a list of deal breakers, only a list of attributes:
- Must be really cute.
- Must have a great sense of humor.
- Must like to go out with large groups of friends.
- Must have a job that doesn’t get in the way of time with me, yet makes enough money to spoil me, a little.
- Must be really cute.
I think that about covered it when I was young and stupid. Yes, I know, this list is incredibly shallow, but let’s be honest – most of us are pretty shallow at 19.
So when I found myself a 27-year-old single mom, my list was quite a bit different:
- Must think that I am really cute.
- Must appreciate my sense of humor.
- Must like to enjoy time alone with me and not need a large group of friends all the time.
- Must have a stable job and not travel too often.
- Must want children.
DW’s health is fine and our marriage is solid – but hypothetically speaking what if I found myself later in life, kids grown, and alone again? Marriage would not be on my mind, but let’s not kid ourselves…the woman would still have needs.
So here is my top 5 list of qualities I would want in a man at that stage of my life:
- Must own his own house and not have debt – he is seriously not moving in with me nor will I pay his bills, ever.
- Must have a great job that requires travel – but only cool places that I would want to tag along.
- Must be younger than me and work out all the time – but only if I look as young as he is. I would want to look like a rock star, not like I’m rocking the cradle.
- Must not ever want his own children – been there done that.
- Must be completely attracted to me and think I’m a total hottie but mostly like to cuddle.
Yeah – I better just pray that nothing happens to DW or I’ll be alone the rest of my life.