Giving up the balancing act for real balance

English: Vrksasana, the tree position, a Yoga ...

English: Vrksasana, the tree position, a Yoga posture. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

My first two yoga sessions were humbling. My impression of yoga was that it was all about stretching and flexibility. I also had a negative opinion that the so-called “spiritual” aspect of the practice was silly and unnecessary. So when I found myself struggling with steadiness, strength and silence it was clear that I had completely misjudged this type of physical activity and its mental benefits.

During an evening class, my body wavered as it fought to stay still in a Warrior II pose. With arms stretched, and feet apart, I could feel my toes grip and my hips sway. I felt anxious to move to the next pose, fearful that I would falter completely, stepping out of the pose altogether. But then I heard the teacher softly say, “Feel your heels grounded to the earth”.

I immediately shifted my weight more center, taking the pressure off of my toes, sinking into the floor as if my heels were nailed down. My arms stopped feeling like a scale trying to balance reaching ahead with stretching behind. It was as if my body was a tree, deeply rooted and my arms were merely branches growing out in to the room. I no longer felt like I was in a hurry to get to the next pose, but instead took a few breaths to enjoy this pose.

This moment.

It’s amazing how quickly our mind can scan through our life so unexpectedly. I started thinking about how many years I have been feeling pulled in every direction, struggling to balance tomorrow with yesterday. Many times I have caught myself saying, “this is just a busy season of my life” or “things will slow down when …” but the truth is, life will always be busy and things will never slow down unless we make a choice to change our focus. My family is active. We all have activities and commitments woven together, dictating our schedules. So how do I balance it all without giving up the things we love?

Simplicity.

I think simplicity is the answer. Gymnastics, swimming, music, friends, writing, golf, racquetball, and of course education, are all part of what makes my family happy. I don’t think that giving up those activities would make life more balanced, but I do think that bringing everyone closer to home would be a better solution. I no longer think our focus should be about being in the perceived “best” community, but being the best we can be in the community we are already a part of today.

Be more grounded.

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About My Pajama Days

I am Emily Okaty Wilson, freelance writer, blogger and public speaker. It sounds better than saying I stay in my pajamas all day eating salt and vinegar chips. I claim to be a wife, a mother, a homeschool teacher and a musician. Sometimes I'm funny.
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5 Responses to Giving up the balancing act for real balance

  1. ayoliag says:

    So very, very true!
    My first attempt with yoga was via a youtube video and skype video chat with my sis … that was something else but I do get what you’re saying about balance and simplicity :)

  2. “Many times I have caught myself saying, “this is just a busy season of my life” or “things will slow down when …” but the truth is, life will always be busy and things will never slow down”

    This is so true especially if you have kids, spouse, and a job. It’s important to make time for yourself and what better way than yoga!! I go to hot yoga 4 times a week and it’s my balance in life!

  3. Miriam Joy says:

    “Many times I have caught myself saying, “this is just a busy season of my life” or “things will slow down when …” but the truth is, life will always be busy and things will never slow down”
    Thank you SO much for saying that. It’s a feeling I’ve often had, but I’ve never been able to phrase it properly. I’m still working on finding my focus and I still spread myself to thin, but I’m getting there.

  4. Coming East says:

    Glad you found the real benefit of yoga.

  5. Tammy says:

    I love yoga and have practiced for a long time. I just need to find more time for it.

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