Apparently I am too prude for mommy porn

I’ve drooled over hunky actors, blushed hearing amazing musicians or felt rather hot and bothered when a great smelling guy got on an elevator with me. I’d be lying if I said I’ve never had a sex fantasy or read some type of erotica, but apparently I am just too prude for this new craze called “mommy porn”.

It seems like most of my friends have read, or is currently reading, Fifty Shades of Grey. And if they aren’t reading it, they’re asking if I’m going to read it.

I can honestly say, no.

The poor writing, weak plot line, and predictable characters aren’t keeping me at bay. The erotica itself isn’t even keeping me from downloading a copy. In fact, I have been quite fond of some sexually explicit literature. After all, reading for escape is quite entertaining and pleasurable. What bothers me, is the idea that “mommies” secretly crave sadomasochism, and are flocking to buy this book to feed their sexual appetite and make their relationships more electric in the bedroom.

Seriously? You think after a long day of being challenged by my children, driving to various sporting events, play dates or errands, scrubbing toilets, or washing my husband’s stinky socks and underwear all while still wearing the clothes I fell asleep in the night before, that I would crave a spanking?

If I wanted to inflict humiliation or pain upon myself, I would lay in the middle of a crowded room with my legs straight up in the air, showcasing my vagina to whoever wanted to take a peak.

Oh wait, I think that’s called child-birth.

I did that twice already.

I don’t see the allure of reading about violent sexual encounters that demoralize anyone, especially women. How is that empowering or gratifying? Give me a book about an incredibly smart and attractive woman engaging in an intimate encounter that includes an afternoon of foreplay directed solely at pleasuring her, and does not include any additional “jobs”, and I will download that immediately. Hell, I’d even consider it a turn on to read about some hunky guy cleaning my house completely naked.

Did watching Eva Longoria as Gabrielle Solis from Desperate Housewives have sex with her hot gardener make me uncomfortable? Did it seem unnatural for Lauren Graham to hook up with her daughter’s English teacher on Parenthood? Not at all. What 30 or 40-something-year-old mom doesn’t fantasize about being a complete MILF? And did I picture myself as Emma Stone standing opposite Ryan Gosling in Crazy Stupid Love when she ordered him to get undressed the first night they met? Well, duh.

But what they all have in common is being in complete control, without controlling another person.

This post is loosely based on this week’s prompt from Write On Edge. This week was to write about what’s forbidden in 450 words or less, fiction or creative non-fiction.

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18 Responses to Apparently I am too prude for mommy porn

  1. Sonja says:

    A neighbor asked me to join the neighborhood book club. This was the book they selected and it is terrible. Bought the book without paying attention. Not joining that book club. Love your post! Very upset this week when I saw a 14 year old girl reading this book. Wonder if the parents have a clue. And, yes naked man cleaning my house would be wonderful!

  2. This was a fantastic post. I purchased Shades after hearing all about its success, but I failed to read the back cover, detailing its erotic nature. I probably would have been able to handle that word “erotic,” but have been unable to get through the BDSM. Degrading, demoralizing, and a great deal depressing. It makes me feel miserable and sad for the young protagonist. Plus, like many have said, the writing is fairly horrible.

  3. mommakiss02 says:

    I don’t think you’re a prude at all. It is really terrible writing. I’d never comment on the ‘lifestyle’ either, as I have no idea what the real life version is. That said? For fluff pool reading, it totally did the trick for me. That is, after I finished book 1 on audio version. Which I don’t recommend. To anyone. Ever. :)

  4. gold account says:

    “Why is it so interesting to surrender?” Seriously, is this even a question? We’re talking about sex. One of the researchers described the fantasies as the “wish to be beyond will, beyond thought”? Who doesn’t have that wish? Or Susan Sontag’s description: “the voluptuous yearning toward the extinction of one’s consciousness”? I mean, this makes sexual submission sound like the BEST THING EVER. Do we even ask men if they have fantasies like that? Because I’m pretty sure they do. I mean, basically I think that women and men are interested in sexual submission because it’s hot. And women and men are into sexual dominance because it’s hot in another way. And obviously some people like one more than the other, and some people are into more specific kinds of kinks, and maybe generally more women are comfortable with submission and men with dominance, because that’s how we’ve been socialized–but really, wanting and wanting to be wanted seem like pretty universal desires. To me, the popularity of 50 Shades is evidence that, at the very least, women like reading about many kinds of sex–and people should probably try doing all of them, because they all seem really great.

  5. silver price says:

    But James deserves credit for opening a window on a world of sexual power play alien to most of us. Some feminist readers have also praised her for depicting Steele as Gray’s equal, even if he requires her to be submissive sexually. This reading has some merit: Gray praises Steele for her strength of character, and she is always an equal player in negotiations between them, sexual or otherwise. It’s also made clear in the book, though I won’t reveal how to avoid a plot spoiler, that the dominant-submissive relationship need not always be male-female.

  6. I would add to Kathleen’s remark that he wouldn’t even have to be hunky.
    And I love your observation that one doesn’t have to control others to be in control. Thanks for writing on this. Well said.

  7. Wisper says:

    I’ve been trying to figure out the same thing with these books. It’s not like they’re doing something new or that out there. I will admit I’ve been thinking about reading at least part of it to see what the hype is, but the last time I did that I was rather disappointed. Maybe I’ll just have to live without it.

  8. Gary says:

    Spot on. Pulp fiction will be pulp fiction. I appreciated this candid exposé from an American housewife on the random turn-on’s that are just temporary puffs of… The ‘legs up…for all to see…oh, yeah, babies’ is Classic!

  9. I have no intention of reading 50 Shades either. I enjoy a good sex scene in a book as well as any other woman, but I can’t support this book because from what I’ve seen the writing is horrible. As for the BDSM in the book, I have a few friends who are actually into that kind of thing and they will tell you that 50 Shades is a far cry from how a relationship in that sort of lifestyle is.

  10. I have no intention of reading 50 Shades either. I enjoy a good sex scene in a book as well as any other woman, but I can’t support this book because from what I’ve seen the writing is horrible. As for the BDSM in the book, I have a few friends who are actually into that kind of thing and they will tell you that 50 Shades is a far cry from how a relationship in that sort of lifestyle is.

  11. Kathleen says:

    “Hell, I’d even consider it a turn on to read about some hunky guy cleaning my house completely naked.”
    – If he is gonna clean, he can leave his clothes on for all I care. :D

  12. Thank you! I honestly do not get it. There are so many other, more interesting things to read (like the instruction manual to my espresso maker.)

  13. I try not to be too critical about writing style or plot (or lack thereof) but I must admit this “grey” phenomenon has me completely stumped. I felt the same way about Exit to Eden (I know, I just said I felt stumped over an Ann Rice novel, but I just couldn’t get through the story.). I don’t get it. So in this case? Yes, I agree with you, and stand with you and proudly exclaim “I’m a mommyprude!”

  14. Shannon says:

    ME TWO !! Love this post !!

  15. Myxl Dove says:

    I’m ashamed (or is the more appropriate word “embarrassed”;-)) to say that I’m currently subjecting myself to the audio book version of said literary phenomenon. Mostly as a point of reference for the inevitable conversation I will have on the subject. At least that’s my current justification. lol

  16. mkultra76 says:

    Love, love, love this! Did I mention that I LOVE this?? :)

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