I don’t support your censorship, just my own

Censorship

Censorship in it’s purest definition makes sense to me, especially in regards to moral censorship.

“Moral censorship is the removal of materials that are obscene or otherwise considered morally questionable. Pornography, for example, is often censored under this rationale, especially child pornography, which is illegal and censored in most jurisdictions in the world.” – Wikipedia

As a parent, I censor things all the time, from music to television to magazines and books. I don’t want my children overly exposed to unnecessary sexual content, vulgar language, risky behavior or religious and political propaganda. I don’t want their character  to be manipulated in a way that contradicts the core values DW and I are trying to teach. And I certainly don’t want them to engage in activities that might compromise their futures. I wish the media made better choices about how women are portrayed. It would be wonderful if more young musicians would produce albums encouraging monogamy and self-respect. And, yes, I wish there were more movies or television shows featuring story lines about healthy relationships and honorable behavior.

However, censorship for the majority is a scary and unthinkable situation. For instance, the idea of banning books, limiting internet content or regulating what the music industry can or can not produce just seems absurd.  Why? Because the minute we start censoring things, where do you stop? And who gets to decide what is considered inappropriate? Whose values or world view is right? What defines art or creativity? And how much important history would be lost if one group over another got to decide what is considered truth?

It’s not a government or religious right to parent the majority. It’s a parent’s responsibility to parent their child.

I am a hypocrite, no doubt. I want my children to make wise choices, but choices based on the examples my husband and I have provided. But I also want them to have opportunities to make choices based on their own beliefs and desires outside of my opinions.

In order to do that, they need to be exposed to a multitude of perspectives and ideas as they get older, holding on to the ones they agree with, yet showing respect to those they do not. Ultimately, when they become adults, no one other than themselves, should determine their religion, sexual orientation, depth of creativity, or self-worth.

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I am Emily Okaty Wilson, freelance writer, blogger and public speaker. It sounds better than saying I stay in my pajamas all day eating salt and vinegar chips. I claim to be a wife, a mother, a homeschool teacher and a musician. Sometimes I'm funny.
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6 Responses to I don’t support your censorship, just my own

  1. Tammy says:

    We have a terrible issue in my state right now where the government is trying to restrict the teaching of Hispanic Heritage. It’s been really frightful for me and others who don’t support a censorship model.

    • It is beyond my comprehension why anyone would want to restrict the teaching of Hispanic Heritage, or any heritage for that matter. We are a such a melting pot – perhaps if we understood each others heritage better, there would be less racism and more compassion.

  2. It is a parent’s right and responsibility to parent a child but you can’t parent adults. The child then gets to chose whether or not he accepts those parental values. That’s why you don’t parent adults, you’re taking away that choice. No hypocrisy at all. But again it comes down to how the parent parents,. as Miriam Joy says children, and adults, need reasons and explanations. That’s what teaching is about rather than censorship. Thought provoking. :)

  3. Miriam Joy says:

    I’ve often felt that my sister censored books unnecessarily. She said to me, “You can’t read that,” or “you’re too young for that,” without ever explaining what it was that was the problem. If she’d said, “This book has a lot of sexual content and I think you should wait until you’re older before you read it,” I might have understood. It was just the way she told me I was too young and didn’t explain. I was naturally curious and as soon as she went to uni, leaving most of her fiction books at home, I read them all. Some of them I understood what she was saying, and some of them I thought she was being ridiculous.
    The point is, though, that although people sort of need to know ‘what’s out there’, they don’t want to be patronised. If they understand why you would recommend they don’t read something, then that’s good. There are a lot of bad influences. If someone said to me, “There’s a lot of violence and sex in that film, you might not want to see it,” I probably won’t. If they tell me it’s forbidden, however, I’ll want to see it out of curiosity, and just to spite them.
    Explanations are good. Forbidding is bad. :) From what you say, I think you’ve got that already!

  4. Coming East says:

    I’m glad you’re my daughter.

  5. sportsjim81 says:

    In complete agreement with you here Em. Label me a hypocrite as well, if that’s what it takes, but I agree that it should be up to the adults who are responsible for the children to determine what those children are exposed to and when. Not just blanket censorship. Good piece!

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